The Abandonment

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Magen’s Bay, St. Thomas, Virgin Islands. ©2017 Bruce Kraus. All rights reserved.

There are probably few things that hurt more in a relationship than to be abandoned by someone you love. For reasons often too complex to comprehend, let alone explain, some people just get up and walk away from a relationship. The one that is left behind, the one that is abandoned, is often left with picking up the pieces of a relationship gone sour. It is so easy to walk away – it is so much harder to stay and truly work through our grievances with each other on a mutual basis.

Sometimes though, instead of having the courage to acknowledge, repair and restore a crumbling marriage, a partner chooses to emotionally abandon their spouse. I think that both men and women can be guilty of emotionally abandoning their partner.

Instead of physically leaving the relationship, your partner simply checks out emotionally. They stop investing in the marriage, leaving their mate feeling detached and unwanted. To the outside world the situation can still look rosy, but in reality the relationship is dying a slow, quiet death. (Dr. Dave Currie)

For the sake of brevity, I am going to cut to the chase. It is my hope that if you are experiencing physical or emotional abandonment that you will take the time to think about what I just wrote. Admitting to ourselves that we are experiencing the aforementioned situations is merely the first step of many. All of us need a second chance. What you decide from here may determine the outcome of your life for better or for worse. The choices you make today become who you are tomorrow.

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