The Caregiver: Pain that never really goes away

Michelangelo’s “The Creation of Humankind”

This post is dedicated to the Caregiver, the person who was present to help a family member or a friend in their greatest hour of need.

I have found WordPress to be a very interesting community, perhaps unique amongst all other current forms of social media. The reader is not bombarded with all the ranting and raving of Twitter or the often childish memes of FaceBook. There is something very special about a core group of people on WordPress. If you tap into that group, you will understand what I mean.

The following story is my story of being a caregiver to the most significant person in my life, my beautiful wife of some thirty-five years now. Our deep felt love for each other is now much stronger than when we first began our courtship, rooted in our shared experiences of joy and sorrow in this life.

This is really hard for me to write about publicly, so please be patient 🙂

Before I begin my story, I just want to make one simple observation as a former pastor, teacher, counsellor, chaplain, communicator, and civil servant. Men are often real bastards, full of themselves including their looks, their talents, their power, their money, and their toys. They are ego-centered and ego-driven and scarcely pay attention to the needs of anyone else, lest it is in their own best interest to do so. It is uncanny how the male ego considers itself as the centre of the universe and all of life revolves around them.

By now, the feminists may be standing up from their seats and applauding. But, that is not the purpose of this post – to denigrate the male species, including myself.

Suffice to say that once God gets a hold of our hearts, He will allow trials and tribulation into our personal lives, over, and over again. His purpose is to bring Christ-like character and humility to our lives, by humbling our innate tendencies towards pride and arrogance, and replacing that with gentleness, tenderness, and true humility.

As men, we will be known for who we are, by our willingness to sacrifice our very lives for the benefit of those we love.

The choices we make today become who we are tomorrow.

To be continued…

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5 thoughts on “The Caregiver: Pain that never really goes away

    1. Please be patient Yassy…I will get there…just having hard time putting my thoughts and feelings into coherent words. Have a beautiful day (evening).

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